Therapy for Anxiety

Online anxiety therapy for Gen-X and Millennial adults in Westchester, NY and throughout New York State

You’re constantly waiting for ‘the other shoe’ to drop.

More and more, you’re catching yourself overthinking EVERY.SINGLE.THOUGHT. Your heart is constantly racing, and you start worrying about whether or not you have heart issues.

You’re constantly on edge at work and in your personal life, and just trying to sit down to rest or relax makes you feel even edgier. So, you plow ahead, pushing yourself harder and harder to just get through every task in front of you.

Your anxious thoughts are like the constant pinging of unread notifications - always popping up, demanding attention, all day. It’s turned your mind into one giant, cluttered inbox, and isn’t just affecting how you get through your day - it’s also impacting your ability to rest. 

Just like the constant anxious thoughts set you on edge throughout the day, they’re doing the same thing to you at night. You want to go to sleep, because you’re so tired. But, the anxious thoughts are unrelenting. So, you toss and turn. You lay there, turning the day over and over in your head, thinking about everything you said and did, wondering if you were good enough. But you’re not just playing the day back - you’re also already anticipating tomorrow. You know you need to calm yourself down so you can sleep, but you can’t get yourself to stop thinking about what you need to do and how you need to show up in order to survive tomorrow.

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The one thing you’re constantly trying to avoid - dealing with your anxiety - is the one thing you still have to face. 

You’re afraid people will notice.

There’s a logical side to you, which knows you’re more than capable of handling the tasks and challenges put in front of you at work and in your career. You’re accomplished, intelligent, and you realize you have an expertise to offer that holds value. People tell you consistently that you have so much to be proud of. You’ve already made it far in your career, and you know you’ve got a lot more you can give, do, and create.

Yet, you worry.

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It feels like there’s a mess of questions bouncing through your mind all the time, filling you with more and more self-doubt. And, the more you try to silo those questions off, the worse it gets. 

You ask yourself:

  • Can I actually successfully give things, off the cuff, at work?

  • Am I truly capable of being prepared for a meeting if there isn’t an agenda?

  • Do I belong here? Will I ever feel like I belong?

  • This stress is breaking me. What if I can’t get past it?

  • I don’t know if I can do this. What if I can’t meet these expectations and demands reasonably, or without feeling like I’m going to fail?

  • Can I actually meet this deadline?

  • If I do what my boss or my team are asking of me, what if that’s when they see I can’t do this, and that I’m actually just a giant failure?

  • I’m so worried that I can’t give my boss or my team the quality they want and expect. How can I justify my paycheck?

Your friends and family have been telling you to ‘just calm down,’ and ‘stop worrying so much.’ You know they’re just trying to help and reassure you that everything is fine, but it leaves you feeling more and more frustrated that they just don’t understand. You’re tired of fearing that you’re going to be judged, caught out there, and fearing that you’ll end up never feeling good enough and never really belong…. anywhere. It feels like it doesn’t matter how much you do or how hard you work - nothing is ‘moving the needle’ in the direction you want it to go in.

So, you start to pull away.

You just want to feel at peace, but the more you try to find it, peace just feels further and further away. Over time, you start isolating yourself because your anxiety about work has slowly turned into now also being anxious at social events. You’re turning down invitations to gatherings and events, you’re not calling your friends and family as much as you used to, and you’re not spending as much time with the people you care about.

There’s a part of you that realizes you’re pulling away because you want to hide - you couldn’t stand it if someone actually made your biggest fear a reality, and validated your feelings of incompetence. Or worse - if you panic while you’re out, and people discover you’re struggling with anxiety… what if they don’t want to be around you anymore?

The fear of people abandoning you, once they realize you’re not perfect, feels like a monster lurking in the shadows, constantly chasing you. You want to trust that you can choose good people to be your friends, who will be there for you - but can you actually trust yourself to make a solid decision? Between the anxiety at work, and the anxiety that’s taking over your personal life and relationships, you’re totally overwhelmed.

Survival mode kicked in somewhere along the way. At this point, it doesn’t matter when it did, and you’re not even sure you could figure out when it did, if you really had to. You know you’re not even ‘faking it ‘til you make it,’ because you literally just want to make it to the next moment. Surviving from one moment to the next, whether it’s at work or in your personal life, without people discovering how incompetent you actually feel or having a moment of embarrassment - it’s become all-consuming.

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So, you keep going back to what’s known and comfortable. You go back to those places in your mind, because the familiarity of it makes you feel just a little less rattled; yet, at the same time, there’s a part of you that knows it isn’t working anymore. All you want is to flourish, but you just don’t know how to get yourself past how you’re feeling.

You realize how much anxiety has completely taken over your life.

Anxiety has left you:

  • With physical sensations of a racing heart, muscle tightness or trembling, feeling sweaty and hot, or constantly freezing cold

  • Feeling consumed by thinking of worst-case scenarios

  • Jumping to conclusions

  • Getting stuck in repetitive thoughts

  • Struggling to fall asleep and/or stay asleep

  • Having a harder and harder time concentrating and focusing on even the simplest, smallest tasks

In order to get relief from how you feel, you’ve been going to Instagram. You’re trying to distract yourself and get ideas for how to live your best life, when really all you find yourself doing is comparing yourself to what you scroll by. This starts yet another spiral, leading you down a path of thinking and feeling like it doesn’t matter how hard you try or how much you work - you could have all the money to live an amazing life, but it’s not going to end up being the same as the lives you scroll by in your feed.

Instead of making you feel better, social media just leaves you feeling like more of a fraud because you don’t know what you need to do in order to create the life you most desire. The milestones you want to achieve feel further and further away, because you know your anxiety is getting in the way. And you just want it to stop. So, when you don’t find the relief you’re looking for on social media, you’re turning instead to alcohol or CBD gummies, just to get it all to stop spinning. You know that being numb isn’t healthy - but if something can make you feel numb, anything is better than anxiety.

But then - the second you stop scrolling, or the moment you’re not turning to substances, it all comes flooding back, and the relief you had for that moment is short lived.

Therapy for Anxiety can help you get your life back.

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My approach to Anxiety Therapy is compassionate, direct, and collaborative. I will help you feel understood, supported, and challenged. I also add a little humor in our sessions, because laughter truly is one of the best medicines for your soul. My style is easy going and supportive, and I sporadically pull from social media when it relates to you and makes sense in the work we’ll do together.

I specialize in working with Millennials (1980 to 1994) and Generation X (1965-1979) to decrease and control anxiety that they have been experiencing. I use a mind body approach using Accelerated Resolution Therapy. (A.R.T. for short)

In A.R.T., we say, ‘Keep the knowledge and lose the pain.’ There’s no need to walk around with feelings and experiences that keep robbing you of feeling joy and fulfillment in your life, especially when A.R.T. can make a huge difference. You’ll be able to recall the details of past events that have negatively affected you, but those events will no longer have the power to trigger strong emotional and physical reactions.

I can promise you, there’s one other person who understands the way you’re feeling - ME. There’s no shame in needing to take the time to take care of yourself, and prioritize what you need. 

When we work as a team on getting your anxiety under control, the goal is always to leave you feeling calm, confident, and like yourself again. You will:

  • Finally be able to exhale, letting your shoulders drop

  • Understand your thinking patterns and build ways to challenge anxious thoughts when they come up

  • Feel confident in being able to identify and understand the connection between your thoughts and feelings

  • And more.

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Asking for help is one of the most courageous things you could ever do, and it’s time to create the space you’ve always deserved to have. When you show up, ready and willing to do the work, allowing me to hold you accountable to the things you say you want - that’s the way to regaining control and getting back to living on your terms. What you focus on expands, and it’s high time you get the support you need, in order to adjust your focus on pivoting to living a life you love.

I look forward to us journeying through laughter, hard work, and real talks.

It’s time for you to go from chasing life, to being totally present in your life, loving each and every single moment.

Call today for a free Zoom consultation, and let's get you feeling more like yourself.

FAQs about using Accelerated Resolution Therapy for Anxiety

  • What is ART and how can it relieve symptoms of anxiety?

    Accelerated Resolution Therapy works directly to reprogram the way in which distressing memories and images are stored in the brain, so that they no longer trigger strong physical and emotional reactions.

    ART uses a combination of creative visualization, somatic awareness, and eye movements to quickly and gently transform the way you remember and respond to past experiences so you are no longer triggered or troubled by symptoms.

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  • What does an ART session look like?

    An ART session is very straightforward, using relaxing eye movements and a technique called Voluntary Memory/Image Replacement to change the way in which the negative images are stored in your brain.

    The end result is that your anxiety or trauma will no longer trigger strong, disproportionate emotional or physical reactions. You DON’T even have to talk about it at all in an ART session.

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  • How will I know if ART can work for me?

    The individual is able to hold on to a thought (or the theme of the problem) throughout a typical 1-hour therapy session.

    The individual is able to frequently move their eyes smoothly from right to left and back again throughout the session.

    The individual is truly ready to let go of the symptom or symptoms that motivated them to seek therapy.

    If you are able to do all of the above, then A.R.T. might be for you and a great way to rid yourself of your troublesome symptoms.

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  • How long will it take to get results?

    There are a lot of factors that contribute to the length of therapy, so it is difficult to predict until we begin working together. Typically, clients have been in therapy between 6-8 months and progress is measured.

    Meeting weekly can improve your progress towards your goals. We will establish a set time to meet each week and that will be our recurring weekly appointment.

    Doing healing work at the level that will sustain long-term change takes time. It’s a commitment. Clients that invest in the time get better faster and with less relapse into old patterns.

    A.R.T can produce results in one to five sessions; however, sometimes it can take longer. This is dependent on the person, the challenges they’re wanting to address in therapy, and their readiness to create change.

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